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So mom passed several month ago and 3 months later my only sibling passed unexpectedly. The grief comes in waves but hoping it will get better. I spent a lot of time at my moms home and I can't seem to stop picturing it in my head like I am there even though we sold her place . Hopefully this is just part of grief and this will pass. Thanks for listening and being here back when I needed all of your advice. God bless.

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I lost my Mom in March 2000, my beloved husband in Dec. 2001, my 10 year job in April 2002 and my older sister in Sept. 2007. I was a train wreck. I went in circles, trying to make sense of it all. Then I went on a mission to meet every famous psychic (Sylvia Brown, John Edwards, James Van Prage) trying to make contact, with no luck.

I look back and don't know how I made it. I just tried not to dwell on the heartache, found another job and threw myself into it. My remaining toxic family (brother and sister) were selfish and not supportive. I had to learn the hard way you don't chose your family and to go no contact. I had good friends who were supportive. Be around positive people as much as you can.

I wish I had better advice, but it just takes time to heal. I made new friends and activities. I kept moving forward, joined an online Widow/Widowers group (Widownet.org). Connecting with others who had similar grief really helped. If you can find a local Grief support group, that will really help. You will not be alone and have some emotional support.

Trust me, it will just take time. Make sure you take care of yourself, stay healthy and get outside in nature often. Find a special place to go there and pray....or talk to them. I wish you peace in your heart.
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So sorry for your loss. That's a lot to deal with. Time is the best healer so give yourself time and realize that all journey's are different and not right or wrong.
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Grief is tricky. I fought the process by compartmentalizing. Thinking by putting it on a shelf to look at later I'd get through it. It didn't work. I'm still fighting the waves of sadness that come to me when I least expect it. Probably should have dealt with it better at the time eight yrs. ago.

You'll get through this one step at a time. Just let it happen and don't be hard on yourself. God bless.
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I’m so sorry for your loss. You’re grieving deeply. All of your memories are fresh in your mind. You can’t expect for them to go away immediately.

Take time to reflect on certain moments if you want. This is normal processing of a huge change in your life.

If you feel that you have become stuck later on and that you would like to speak about it then you can join a grief support group like griefshare.org. If you don’t like group settings you can always see a therapist on your own.

Wishing you peace as you continue to grieve.
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((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))
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So sorry for this loss. What a double impact. This is so very new that I would almost think you have not yet entered into grief fully at this point. There is a kind of time of SHOCK, a quiet in which there are so many things to address of a concrete nature. And then the grief does come. And as you said, may come in waves.

Be easy with yourself. This is very individual. Again, I am so very sorry for this double loss of yours.
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I'm deeply sorry to hear about the loss of your mother and sibling. Grief is indeed a complex and highly personal journey, and it's natural to experience it in waves. The vivid memories of your mom's home are a normal part of the grieving process. Your mind is likely revisiting spaces that hold significant emotional connections. With time, these intense memories often become less overwhelming, though they might never completely fade away. Remember, it's okay to seek out support during this challenging time. May you find peace and healing in your journey through grief. God bless you too.
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