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My husbands brother is very hard to get along with. The house he lives in is trashed. My husband and I are 70 and 69 and want to help his brother. We own his house which use to be his parents. He had a gambling problem when we bought it back from the bank for him. We took a mortgage out on our house to buy his house and he's been paying us back, with regularity every month, to pay his utilities, taxes and our house payments . Now he's in bad health and not keeping himself or the house in a liveable condition. We need to sell the house and put him in an assisted living home, how can we do this without his cooperation?

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Do you have POA? If not the next thing would be guardianship which is expensive and time consuming. The next thing would be Adult Protection Services. Ask them to evaluate the situation to see if there are resources he can use. If they feel he needs care in a NH, let them take over. He will then become a ward of the state. They will assign a guardian to take over his care. They also will be able to get him help faster than u can without all the red tape. At you ages (I'm 70), you should not have to deal with all the forms and headaches that go with caring for someone. He is where he is because of the choices he has made.

It will be hard to do this now because Gov offices are closed.
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So, if you own the house, does he have a lease? Or things just on the honor system, which is fine, just curious. Either way, as long as his name is not on the deed, etc. it would seem to me that you need to go through the process to give him legal notice that he needs to vacate the home. He does not have to agree with this.

Put the house on the market, let him know. If he has no money, I guess he will have to go on gov't pay for a nursing home?

Sorry you have to deal with this.
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I'd likely consult with an attorney. In some jurisdictions, there may be prohibitions against evictions as normal, due to covid-19. I'd inquire if you think that might be necessary. Also, him finding a place to live right now, might be difficult. If his health is bad enough, would he qualify for nursing home care? Is he a veteran? If you think that he is a danger to himself, you might report it to social services for an investigation. I'd get input from an attorney on the options though. Most attorneys are still doing consults by phone or facetime.
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