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Throws my food in garbage; leaves freezer open and ruins all food; etc. Are there books I can buy or instructions on how to be more understanding when these things occur? Thanks for any info to help.
If the food is getting ruined from the freezer being left open, it has to be for very long periods of time. Is your wife being left alone? If so, you need to rethink the entire situation including how "early" her stage of Alzheimer's truly is. Go to Alzheimers.org and read all about the disease, the stages, and get helpful tips on what to do and not do. Teepa Snow videos are excellent, as was stated, and a recommendation from me as well.
You need to start thinking about the dangers that are present in your home right now, and how your wife may get into trouble. For example, mixing ammonia and bleach together to clean and asphyxiating herself. Or trying to cook and leaving a pot on the stove. Or wandering off in the middle of the night. There are a ton of possibilities for what could happen to her if she's not closely watched 24/7 which is impossible for you to do, realistically. If she's not yet at the stage where she's exhibiting dangerous behaviors, it may not be far off.
You may want to look into Memory Care Assisted Living homes for your wife. I work in one and can tell you that I see lots of husband's and wives who have placed their spouse when they became too much to handle at home. Some come to visit twice a day and have a much better relationship now that they've relinquished their caregiver role.
Think about it as you read all about Alzheimer's and what to expect moving forward. Teepa Snow is on YouTube and particularly good at explaining the difficulties and frustrations associated with this dreadful disease. Knowledge is power.
To be fair, the freezer door can be left cracked open and you don't really notice it or perhaps is not in the main kitchen area. I've discovered my freezer door cracked open when someone 'stuffed' things inside and it didn't seal properly. So it may not have been because she was left alone.
Google Teepa Snow and watch her videos on youtube. You need to understand what is happening to her. She has no control over what she does. Her brain is failing. I know it is frustrating to you because you probably feel like so much is intentional on her part, but it isn't. She would probably be horrified to know she is doing what she is doing, if she was in her right mind. Teepa Snow's videos helped me understand what was happening to my mother when dementia first hit out of no where. You also need to understand this isn't going to get any better or easier. If you are already frustrated now, and I've been there so I understand, you probably need to go ahead and research Assisted Living facilities to place her in. Look for one that will let you transition to Medicaid if you run out of money. While you are doing that, you should also consult with an elder care attorney who can help guide you along the way and protect assets for your care later, while still providing for your wife during this time.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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You need to start thinking about the dangers that are present in your home right now, and how your wife may get into trouble. For example, mixing ammonia and bleach together to clean and asphyxiating herself. Or trying to cook and leaving a pot on the stove. Or wandering off in the middle of the night. There are a ton of possibilities for what could happen to her if she's not closely watched 24/7 which is impossible for you to do, realistically. If she's not yet at the stage where she's exhibiting dangerous behaviors, it may not be far off.
You may want to look into Memory Care Assisted Living homes for your wife. I work in one and can tell you that I see lots of husband's and wives who have placed their spouse when they became too much to handle at home. Some come to visit twice a day and have a much better relationship now that they've relinquished their caregiver role.
Think about it as you read all about Alzheimer's and what to expect moving forward. Teepa Snow is on YouTube and particularly good at explaining the difficulties and frustrations associated with this dreadful disease. Knowledge is power.
Best of luck to you
You also need to understand this isn't going to get any better or easier. If you are already frustrated now, and I've been there so I understand, you probably need to go ahead and research Assisted Living facilities to place her in. Look for one that will let you transition to Medicaid if you run out of money. While you are doing that, you should also consult with an elder care attorney who can help guide you along the way and protect assets for your care later, while still providing for your wife during this time.