Have you dealt with trying to move a parent in with you but knowing that his/her 3 cats are not going to work in your house? Am I being unfair? I have 2 dogs, Mom's 3 cats tend to urinate in the house and I do NOT want that in my house!! Can you think of a compromise?
Tell her so. And then help he find a place to live that will accept the cats and good luck on that.
My mother has 2 feral cockatiels. They are beyond filthy, and she cannot clean their cage so she just keeps lining it with more and more newspaper. She lives with YB and his family and they have between 4-7 cats, I'm not sure. The smell in that house is BAD!
I have cancer and have been on chemotherapy all summer. One of the things I am not allowed to be around during the chemo and for 6+ months post chemo is feral birds. Their feathers and dander and poop are toxic to me. I could easily get a fungal infection from them. Telling my mother that I couldn't see her for about a year due to this and asking her if she would consider re-homing the birds for a year so I COULD come help her and see her...she chose the birds. This has hurt me beyond words. She chose birds she didn't even want in the first place, they're not "hand trained" so they hiss and scream when anyone but mother gets near them. She calls them her 'little buddies' but they are just a living breathing part of her hoard.
I'm sorry for you--if you were hoping to bring mom home for her care, but we cannot MAKE our parents put us ahead of their pets or their junk.....
I agree with you.
Animals/pets of all sorts are living creatures, not items for disposal when they pose an inconvenience.
You'll have no regrets later on.Please.
Sorry, I think that an animal that soils it own living arrangements is not all there and I would not have an animal in my home that did that.
You can make them outdoor cats, but they are a deal breaker for me.
Have you ever tried to get rid of the stench of cat urine? It is almost impossible.
Yuck, yuck, yuck!!!
Edit: I just read through the post. Heather, your mom is already trying to make the rules in your house. Just because she wants to live with you doesn't mean that you are required to grant her wish.
If she has always been stubborn and not willing to compromise with others but demands that she gets her way, you are making the worst mistake of your life by moving her in.
She will push being the mistress of the house, she will treat you like a child, she will make your home a miserable place for everyone. I would rethink your decision unless you want to be treated like you are 5, or you want to run your husband off, or maybe you want to be tied to your house 24/7 with a manipulative, ungrateful, demanding mom that doesn't care about your needs because hers are always more important. If you want to live this way, move her in. If you want to keep your marriage and your sanity let her move to an AL or stay in her home with aides coming in to help.
There are so few success stories when a parent makes ultimatums or demands about living in the home of one of their children. She has already started this behavior. Think about it.
Although I have stated many times on this site that I will not provide care for either of my parents, I do have an agreement in place with Mum. If she goes into care, I will take her pets.
I have 3 cats and 2 dogs, I also volunteer for a cat rescue feeding feral cats 4 days a week. I understand the bond between a person and pets. I can completely understand not being concerned about damage to stuff, as it is just stuff, not a relationship.
If you have a local cat rescue, they may offer a placement service or temporary fosters.