My husband and I are both disabled. We reside in NY State in a fairly rural area. We sold our home to build a disability friendly manufactured home. It should be ready for occupancy in October. My parents are both disabled. They reside in California. My father no longer drives.
Our home is coming with a suite attached with its own entrance for my parents to live in. It will have a small kitchen, living room, bedroom, bathroom, and closet.
My dad and his sister will sell the California property and they will split the money 50/50 (in accordance with the will of my grandparents).
Dad would like to use some of the money to get a storage shed, gutters on the new house (our part and theirs) and suite, a generator, and perhaps a garage, etc. depending on how much money he receives.
1) Dad is worried about losing his benefits by receiving money from the sale of the California property. Is this true? Is there anything that can be done regarding this?
2) How do I approach doctors in NY with trying to get their medications continued without issues? They both have some pain medications, history of compliance and no issues, and years of trial and error to finally find what helps each of them. Having Health Care Proxies, Power of Attorneys, other forms, joint phone calls, virtual calls, etc. isn't going to be a problem.
3) Will my husband and/or I lose our own disability benefits if they live in the suite attached to our new home? Neither of us have any curable conditions. Our health isn't going to change no matter who lives with or near us.
I thank everyone and anyone who is kind enough to take the time to help guide me regarding this. I know there are several parts to this situation.
Meditation = more poppycock at least for me. I'm sure it works for some, but it has never worked for me. A "prescription" for meditation is a total waste of time. Currently, I'm taking a grab bag of OTC and a "permissible" Rx med for sleep. None of this works as well as my former, successful regimen but the medical system couldn't care less. They have their "guidelines" to follow! I maintain that these guidelines were likely established by a bunch of 35-45-somethings in excellent health who have NO IDEA what ongoing undertreated pain and sleeplessness feel like in real life. Nor do they care.
Being a street drug addict would seem like an easier route these days, if you have the right "connections" which I--a law-abiding citizen for 87 years--do not. So, I (and a lot of others) get more pain and insomnia in our "Golden Years". Lucky us!
and go to the bathroom three times at night. I also care for my husband who sleepwalks and has dementia on top of that. He might wake up at night sometimes so that I’m awake until I get him back in bed. He readily complies, so no big deal. These issues are manageable because with zolpidem, I go right back to sleep afterward; without it, I find it difficult and lie awake. I need to be in tip-top condition every day in order to perform my caregiving duties. Meditation is not an option three or four times during my sleeping time. This new doctor doesn’t care. I also take a hormone-based med once a week. It’s about 1/3 the recommended dose, but she refuses to prescribe anything with any amount of hormones. It is so frustrating. I feel that as an educated adult woman who understands the risks with these meds, I should make my own choices. I refuse to be infantilized by a woman in a white coat! I will find a better doctor and I’ll let the practice know that she’s why I’m leaving.