I recently came on board here. As i said previously my mom came to live with me in april. A good decision i thought and still think was for the best. I would love to know what to do with the rest of my siblings. They sent a letter now to my mom saying I am taking advantage of her and abusing her finances. None of which is true. As I said before my mom came into my home to live from a low income apt. and she has nothing. she brought with her some credit card debt. Thats it. She receives some social security a month not much. Now she is afraid to be alone , She qualifies for a medicaid program which provides her with an aide in the morning for 2 hours. once that aide leaves she sits on the end of couch looking out the window for fear they may come and try and come and drag her out. how sad is this. she's 84 years old. she just wants to feel safe and secure. does anyone have any advice. how do i convince her she is safe here when i'm not so sure what else these siblings are plotting next. Help
Just hang in there. Yes it is much easier if they are in our homes. Family members do get crazy when they think money is involved, but if help is needed it seems they do not hear the call.
All I can suggest is to keep a tally of what your mother spends and how she spends it. This can be used later in your defense if anything comes of it.
I make sure my mother's bank account is used only on her because I expect later someone will say something. And I will hand it over for them to see.
But that can be time consuming.
Just hang in there and we will help as much as possible.
Brendalou
Brendalou