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I. How We Work in Washington. Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services. APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
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Your loved one may not require home care or assisted living services at this time. However, continue to monitor their condition for changes and consider occasional in-home care services for help as needed.
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I don't think there are any rules regarding who should take care of a loved one, or even any social conventions. For instance, it is not the oldest or the youngest or the unmarried one, or the one who doesn't have a job, etc. Ideally when there is more than one child they work together to figure out what is best for Mother or Father and what is practical in their family.
If there are no family members who are willing and able to take care of an elder, our society tries very hard to see that they get decent care regardless. Somebody has to get the ball rolling by contacting Social Services in the loved one's county and explaining the situation.
There is no shame in saying, "I care about this person, but I am not able to care for her personally, because of my own health issues." In fact, it is very wise to recognize our own limitations before a totally unworkable situation gets set up.
I always thought I would take care of Mom when she got older and couldln't take care of herself. It couldn't happen because my husband wanted no part of it. We hired an aide and she is a saint. When I see what she goes thru taking care of my mother there is no way I could have done it. She has to place suppositories in her and blend all her food and practically hand bathe her. G-d Bless these people. I love my Mom but could never handle her like the aide does. Sometimes I feel guilty about it but I have a brother who lives far away and it doesn't bother him one way or the other. He says I worry too much! I still do all the shopping for her, pay all her bills and make sure she has everything she needs. I keep in close contact with the Hospice people that come to see her. I pray I am doing enough.
What happens is you find another way to provide the care. Just because you can't do the physical labor of sheltering and caring for the person doesn't mean you can't provide the care another way. Hiring an aid, finding am assisted living situation, taking turns among the family members -- all are ways to deliver needed care, and all can work in concert, or as stand alone situations. For example, maybe you find an aid AND now, and ASL for the longer term. Maybe you start with just a few hours, to do what needs doing, and work toward more hours when and if that demand needs to be met. But the first step is helping everyone involved change their view of what "care taking" is. It needn't mean living with the person. Keeping them safe can happen lots of ways. Good luck to you!
I agree with calling social services If their is not a family member that can step up to the plate. That way you can get the ball rolling to get someone to find her some help. In addition, it will help relieve the person that is sick so that he or she does not have to deal with and neither should you have to deal with the care-giving anymore if you do not wish to keep up with the responsibilty. A person can only do and take so much pressure and it may be best for the person that needs the special care too, the mom and for y'all. Good Luck and let us know how it goes.
I read stuff about hiring and aid or finding assisted living. I could not afford to hire an aid. Assisted living was too expensive. If your parent qualifies for Medicaid that would work. In order to get that your parent needs to be medically necessary for Medicaid and qualify financially. My mother didn't qualify for Medicaid because a nursing home wasn't medically necessary. She went into assisted living but didn't like it so she moved in with me.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
If there are no family members who are willing and able to take care of an elder, our society tries very hard to see that they get decent care regardless. Somebody has to get the ball rolling by contacting Social Services in the loved one's county and explaining the situation.
There is no shame in saying, "I care about this person, but I am not able to care for her personally, because of my own health issues." In fact, it is very wise to recognize our own limitations before a totally unworkable situation gets set up.
G-d Bless these people. I love my Mom but could never handle her like the aide does. Sometimes I feel guilty about it but I have a brother who lives far away and it doesn't bother him one way or the other. He says I worry too much!
I still do all the shopping for her, pay all her bills and make sure she has everything she needs. I keep in close contact with the Hospice people that come to see her. I pray I am doing enough.
But the first step is helping everyone involved change their view of what "care taking" is. It needn't mean living with the person. Keeping them safe can happen lots of ways. Good luck to you!