We don’t have room in Our house to have my mother live with us, unless we remodeled extensively but she shouldn’t be living alone. Has anyone here had their relative live in their property in an Rv or bus, to have them close because you don’t have room? It would allow me to check on her multiple times daily , which I can’t do where she lives now . Or, I’m thinking about a granny pod. Has anyone bought one, and did you like it?
I think that's a key point here. An rv or pod is a bad idea. I think your mom would have a fit and Big hassles to set up for elders. She needs lots of in home care where she is or facility care.
She also needs to think ahead, after a few falls she might need to use a walker. As mentioned above, would there be enough room for her to use a walker... remember, elders are not as coordinated as the younger generation.
If Mom is all for these ideas, take her on a "test drive" at a RV dealer and borrow a walker and have Mom try it out. Hopefully the RV's bathroom won't be a tiny space with the shower over the toilet with the sink out in the kitchen. Any place to try out a tiny house? I know they can be custom built.
Also, would there be enough room for two people in case Mom needs to have a caregiver come in during the day.
I'd also consider the psychological impact. Yes, tiny houses have become a fad lately, but, you really have to have a certain mindset for them. I lived in a small apt once for about a year. Man....it really bothered me and I"m no diva. There is something about that small space over a long time that just got on my nerves. I had to move, even though, I liked my apt, location, price, amenities, etc.
I would think that a place where mother could be looked on and also have more social interaction with her peers, activities, dining room, etc. might serve her better than being in a small isolated space alone.
Or you might, do a trial run for a month and see how it goes, after ensuring that it's legal in your jurisdiction, health code, zoning, etc.
I just sold our RV and I can tell you after three weeks travelling, and spending most our time outside, it got very small, it was great for week long trips. There is very little room for hobbies, no room to entertain and little room for stuff.