I can no longer handle the stress of dealing with my 86 year old demented father. He was put in a nursing home today, but I know w/in 21 days he will be released and will return to his own home where he will continue to be a danger to himself. I don't care that he is a danger to himself; I honestly to don't care about anything that happens to am any more. I have given up nearly 2 yers of my life dealing with his issues and I have had it. My brother is also unable/unwilling to be his POA. How do I remove myself from this legally?
Both my parents were very narcissistic and emotionally immature. They both came from broken homes. They just didn't/don't have it to give. I have tried for years to get my mother to make me an alternate on her POA in case I needed to take over for my brother. No go.
So I am at peace with letting the courts deal with her if it comes to that. She can go into whatever they deem appropriate. I have warned her and she would rather accuse me of wanting her money, etc. etc.
I read between the lines on your post that there is much pain. I hope you get some help for the anger (and I know there is anger, I have it still) and other bad feelings you have.
No one can make you take care of your father. The problems seem great with Medicaid. That is an eye opener. You need some professional advice as to what avenue to take to be able to get him help. Just don't take him into your home. If you don't agree with this statement, please read all the posts from people who have done this and the nightmare it has become.
I am sure you will get many comments. There are so many on thsi site with issues dealing with difficult parents. Sift through them and, in time, you will see your path. Good luck
Good luck to you.
When you resign your POA, there will not be one unless your father appoints another, if he can. Maybe you can hire a good, ethical lawyer to handle everything. There is never an easy answer when dealing with a difficult parent. I still have many unanswered problems with mine. Good luck to you.
I am with you, I don't want to be forced to take care of my mother. She has done everything she can to keep me in the dark about her business. So I figure she doesn't want me to be involved. Fine with me.
has advanced stages of dimentia and I need to know how to get her daughter
to willingly give up her POA and transfer to another responsible family member.
I have the stick as leverage as I can report her to Health and Human services
and she will be arrested and convicted and sent to prison if she does not.
So what I need is the specific technical details and forms and procedures to
not only get her to resign but also what is necessary to transfer POA responsibility
to someone else. Question one is can someone with durable power of attorney
assign POA responsibility to someone else before they relinquish Durable
POA ?
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