He has been evaluated by staff who say he is ok for AL. He is currently at a rehab/skilled nursing facility. I don’t know —but hope— he will improve over time after he's discharged. But he has declined rapidly over the last 6 months. I worry that he might need a dedicated caregiver to address incontinence and everything else —including simple things like getting himself a drink. Or is AL better for addressing changing needs? Thank you.
Incontinence scares many people and their families away from living at home, but it is very manageable and it certainly doesn't have to be a deal-breaker. How able is your father generally? What took him into the rehab SNF in the first place? How much longer does he have in rehab, and what do they say about how much more progress they expect him to make with them?
My personal experience with AL has shown that they deal with the incontinence in a timely manner. Otherwise you would not be able to breathe in the building.
If he is able to call for help and tell them what his needs are that is so helpful to ensure that he is getting good care. As big as a messed adult incontinence brief feels to us, it is just a matter of course for facility staff. God bless them all for their willingness to take care of these issues.
I think that your idea of a month respite is a great way to find the perfect fit. If the 1st facility doesn't work, please don't give up. Take what you learned and ask better questions and research at the next place. You will be shocked how much you don't know and what you will learn to find his forever home.
Best of luck finding it quickly.
The Caring Nurse
Fatima
I'll give you an example: my mother lived in the same AL for 4 years; declining the whole time. She fell 40x but still used a walker. When her vertigo got very bad, she sometimes required TWO people to assist her; a big no-no in AL's in general. A resident must be a 1 person assist or he doesn't quality for most ALs. She was becoming too big a burden for AL; then she got pneumonia, was hospitalized for it and went to rehab for 3 weeks. The AL would NOT accept her back because she had gone into a wheelchair by then, combined with moderate dementia AND her other mobility issues, she was no longer a candidate. So we moved her to the Memory Care bldg which has a caregiver to resident ratio of 5:1.
ALs are very eager to accept new residents, this is true. Make SURE the place you're looking at isn't going to ask your dad to LEAVE a few months after he gets there b/c he's 'too much to handle'. Find out what their cost tiers are, what level your dad will be at upon entry, and how many tiers he can CLIMB before he needs to leave for a higher level of care ie: Skilled Nursing. In other words, how much worse can he get before he has to move? See where I'm going with this? Can he get up and down alone? Does he require MORE than 1 person to help him? SOME ALs DO allow a resident to be a 2 person assist, Morningstar is one of them. They will accept a resident at a very high level of care and charge them SNF prices for the privilege. But they're still in AL, so some people are happy with that.
All ALs are different, so make SURE the one you're thinking about is above board with you and that you read their contract very carefully. See under what conditions your dad would have to leave. Because the real goal is to have as FEW moves as possible for the elderly
Good luck!
move as if he were to move out of the house. Thank you very much.
You have to listen to the facility to understand what it looks like for them.
When my dad was in rehab he met a lady that was paralyzed from the neck down and she was in the assisted living area at the continuing care facility. She needed help with everything and it wasn't a problem in the least.