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He also has been very ill due to kidney failure at age 76. His partner and her family decided to bring him to a hospital closer to his sister's home so they could spend more time with him.


He is currently a lot better than he was, but his partner has now walked away from having the responsibility to look after him as she said she is too old. My mum (his sister) is 68 years of age and a widow on a low pension since my dad died 3 years ago. She is currently looking after him but getting no support from his partner or her family. I think this is very unfair on my mum and I would like to know what her legal rights are. I don’t know if his partner has power of attorney for him. He does get a state pension but this is currently only covering his nappies as he is bed ridden. My uncle and his partner live in a flat on her daughter's property that he paid to be built (over $350,000), but also has no bank account as she deals his finances. What are my mum’s rights and what are my uncles? We obviously don’t want to upset him but are concerned about his health and wellbeing as well as my mum as she is currently burnt out!

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This is a total and complete mess.
I certainly have no idea of what is happening.
It sounds as though your Uncle has a female partner who has tired of care of him, and because she is merely a partner she has walked away. Do I have that right?

You use "mum" and I am wondering where you reside, for if you are in the UK the rules and regulations and the protections may be a good deal different than they are in the USA. In this situation in the USA everyone may well be going down with the ship.

What is going to happen here entirely depends upon who is LEGALLY designated as WHAT and it sounds like you don't know the answer to that?
Hence an attorney is needed.
Questions here you need to know ASAP:
WHAT are Uncle's assets ?
WHERE are Uncle's assets?
WHO has control of Uncle's assets?
WHO is POA for Uncle?
Is Uncle competent enough to appoint his sister as his POA or you, his neice, and are you legally able to do all that a POA must do to find his assets, keep track of everything, place him in care and protect him?

As I said, this is a tangle. And it is going to take a whole lot of sorting out. I am hoping this woman, the partner who has walked away has not walked away with assets they may have comingled, because if so Uncle in not only deserted, but he is broke.

I surely do wish you luck and I surely do hope you keep us informed.

Find an attorney now.
If you ARE in the UK and you have a Social Services System and National Health that is a good deal better than ours you may be in luck. Otherwise I shudder for this situation.
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SharonRey Oct 2023
Thanks so much for your response I reside in Ireland my mum is in SA. Yes an attorney is the solution but we also don’t want to upset my uncle too as this affect his health . He also doesn’t want to fight
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You Need to tell the partner to hire Help as mom Is Burnt Out and encourage Mom to take a vacation .
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SharonRey Oct 2023
Thanks but she says she doesn’t have the funds for it .Apparently he does have a Will but when there is discussion on this and funeral policies he gets upset .
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Thanks so much for your response I reside in Ireland my mum is in SA. Yes an attorney is the solution but we also don’t want to upset my uncle too as this affect his health . He also doesn’t want to fight . Sorry but I don’t know much about his assets and and who is in control of this . I’m assuming it’s that partner but he has no bank account . My mum knows who his lawyer is as he was a customer of my late dad so I’m not sure what she should do . He has mentioned that everything will be left to her but we don’t know what his assets are and have no paperwork to confirm the same
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KNance72 Oct 2023
She needs to speak to his lawyer so she doesn’t get screwed in the end especially if she is primary caregiver . People use their wills to control and manipulate people to be a slave .
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Ai much?
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I think you need to do whatever you can to get some answers. If your uncle is upset, then he may need to be upset in order for him to get better care. Also, unless he is upset long-term so that he doesn't eat, he may say you're ruining his health. but I doubt if that really will happen. Being upset alone won't kill you! If you are unable to get some of these things straightened out, on the other hand, he may end up in a totally untenable situation.

I also have one question. Further on, you say that your mum is in SA? What is SA? I live in the U.S. and don't think I've ever heard of it. Thank you!
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