I'm staying with Mom,and cleaning up horrible mess. The house needs desperate repairs. Mom won't put me on Heapa, because she doesn't want me talk to her Doctor. Mom is a two year old teenager. Resistant. So much that has hurt both of us.This is just to much. I'm ready to walk.
Good luck to you on being able to do any cleaning or repairs. Usually they balk at that, too.
Do you go to the appointments with her? Doctor may just talk to you anyway, if you become familiar to him as her caregiver.
Good luck, it is a sometimes difficult journey we are all in, taking care of a loved one who's health is declining.
Is the "horrible mess" the result of hoarding? Is the "staying with Mom" temporary or do you live with her?
What is your question for us?