She is recreating events, mixing up past events, lying and manipulating, she even became physical with me (pushed me 3x, forcefully). In all she is acting completely different from the person we knew. She refuses to get checked out and we do not have Power of Attorney (POA) what can we do to have her evaluated by a doctor? We are located in Wisconsin - if that helps advising us with local laws.
I was afraid you might say that.
I should think MIL is terrified. Talk to SIL, see if the family can get in touch with her oncologist and report what's going on.
I believe there is a better chance of action being taken.
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What is she being abusive to you and SIL (and your husband too?] about? Is it a particular theme, or does it seem as though her feelings about her closest family have changed radically but everything else is carrying on as normal?
In between the rants and the pushing, do you get to interact with her normally at all?
Has MIL said what she expects of any of you?
My Mom is in denial and lies about her decline, too. Hoping they both get diagnosed.
Hugs & strength for the days ahead.
UTIs can cause this. Get her tested for that anyway you can.
Report to her doctor a change in mental status, followed by some brief synopses of situations that shes misunderstood.
Google Teepa Snow and watch some if her videos on handling folks with delusions.
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