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The same as when the doctor says a patient needs heart medication. It's a "suggestion" in that it's up to the patient to actually follow doctors orders, or why ask for their expertise in the first place?
Lea, I follow doctors' instructions to the letter. I've had a couple of them express surprise when it's come up in conversation about meds or therapy. I gather from their reactions that ignoring doctors' advice is rampant. This puzzles me. If I didn't want their advice, I'd stay home and eat bon-bons.
When the doctor makes a suggestion, do you ignore it? Or only when it's for 24-hour care, which costs some money and a lot of inconvenience? Examine your conscience.
Not necessarily (actually I use a nurse practitioner, not a doctor). But I research everything she recommends myself online. She's always been right so far and sends links to reputable online information in the patient portal to back up what she recommends. All NPs, PAs, MDs, and DOs should do this. A well-informed patient is more likely to follow their advice after she or he has looked into it her or himself. Of course, this can be a spouse, child, sibling, or grandchild if the patient cannot look it up themselves.
24/7 care is generally only "suggested" when necessary. And it's not just having someone live with the patient or the patient living with someone. 24/7 care is having someone awake and alert 24/7 in order to see to the needs of the patient. That usually implies that the person can't be left on their own for any amount of time.
So is it a suggestion? I guess if you look at it from the perspective of can they they force you to do it - not unless something really bad happens and APS has to step in (and even then if she is "competent" she still gets to decide, unless she is Baker Act'd or something serious like that).
So sure - it's a suggestion. But it's not one I would ignore for very long - because it usually has a strong sense of urgency behind it.
I was told my dad needed memory care by a "Doctor", when I went to look at facilities I knew that my dad did NOT need memory care.
So, I highly recommend, that you get a needs assessment from your local council on aging and decide from there.
Some doctors are complete and total idiots and don't use the sense a sugar ant has, it is up to us to advocate or get an advocate to ensure we are getting the appropriate care for the actual needs.
I’m confused, because you have not completed your profile or explained much. 24 hour care for whom? I first read it as being for you. But perhaps not!
24 hour care can be one of several different things: Three shifts of carers sitting by the bedside at home, 24 hours a day? A nursing home? AL with a bit of extra monitoring? A babycam, and a pressure alarm if the person wakes up and tries to get out of bed? They are all forms of 24 hour care.
For that matter, doctors differ in their suggestions, their understanding of the total situation at home, and their realism about finances. Saying ‘24 hour care’ is easier than doing it. It reminds me of another recent post where the doctor said that MIL ‘would not thrive’ in a NH – without considering whether the carer, husband or children would ‘thrive’ with MIL at home and the carer quitting her job, or even whether ANY elder ‘thrives' in a NH.
If you have doubts about the need for 24 hour care, I’d suggest that you look at all the options. Then go back to the doctor for a more detailed recommendation – or find another doctor who can give more useful advice.
Twenty-four home care can be very expensive. If you look into this option read all of the terms of the care, including hourly quotes as well as to the minute quotes. Also care givers have to be monitored. One of mine at $33 per hour slept on my couch, wanting blanket, pillow, etc. Another did not know what a boost was. These care givers came from a very reputable company or so I thought. I opted for care up to 10 or 11 and then used a baby monitor. I am a very light sleeper so I was aware of any movement or need. You will be inconvenienced by having someone in the house but nursing homes seem understaffed. At least I knew care was given.
Doesn't sound like a mere suggestion to me. If you have doubts, a second opinion from an experienced medical professional who has seen and evaluated the patient face-to-face is probably a good idea.
Our doctor didn't "suggest" 24/7 care for our dad, my sister, as a nurse, decided it needed to happen. Dad didn't want it, though he was a brittle diabetic. I wanted to respect Dad's wishes, as this was a great point of contention with him, so asked his elder law atty about it. His comments (FL law) were that if we knew Dad needed care and didn't provide it, regardless of not having a doctor "prescribe" it, we would be liable if something happened and could go to jail. Food for thought.
On the other hand, the doctor did let dad go home from an assisted living facility, after a stroke, knowing that he lived alone, not ordering home health care for him, and not letting us know that he was even going home! We had to scramble to get someone there to look after him! Who told us?? The neighbor who picked him up from the facility and took him home, gave us a call. Geez.
Not true about you being liable for a parent. Adult children are never responsible for anything that their parents do. If he has the mental capacity to make his own decisions, it is entirely his choice to accept help or not. If he is not capable of making decisions then he would need to have a guardian appointed by a court.
Ask the doctor. I'd think NO. . . otherwise, why would she say that? You must ask your MD to clarify anything and everything s/he says that you are not absolutely clear about / understand.
That's fine but the cost to find a good place for a loved one is very expensive. I think our insurance should pay towards care for people who need 24 hour care.
AbsolAbsolutely not a suggestion I know a lot of people believe that doctors sometimes make educated guesses but I'd rather rely on them than uneducated anything
I thought I was responding to Power of Attorney: Why Not Buy a Form Online?
For healthcare the only POA I trust is 5 WISHES which is legally accepted in 42 states and has been translated into 22 languages. There is also a pediatric form. Why I like it? The 1st wish allows you to select 3 individuals and 2 alternates to form a team to aid with your health care issues with you or if you are unable to make the decision. The next wishes relate to how you wish to be treated during your health decision road. The final wish allows you to determine how you wish to have your memorial. The language is very comforting and very legal. There are attorneys who pu-pu the notion of a team making the decisions but it is legal. Aging with Dignity or google 5 Wishes. It is $5.00 for 1 but is definitely worth the investment for your loved one and yourself and family.
24 hour care likely means the person can not take care of themself. Either because they are not mobile, or in danger of falling when trying to walk. Also, they need someone to manage medication, toileting or incontinence care.
My husband suffered a stroke which left him unable to walk or even sit up on his own, unable to speak clearly, unable to chew and swallow solid food, no use of right arm or leg, and doesn't know how to use the tv remote, or telephone, so he can not call anyone for help. He needs 24 hour care. I stay home with him all day, every day. I do occasionally leave for an hour or so to run an errand, do quick shopping and such only because there are things I need to do and I don't always have someone available to stay with him. I make sure he is comfortable, in his bed, with tv on, a thickened drink on the table next to him before I go. I also have a camera focused on him so I can look in on him from my phone, and talk to him.
No. It is a WARNING that you could be responsible for her death if you do not act to protect her. When a doctor says that 24/7 care is needed it means she is no longer SAFE alone.
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Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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So is it a suggestion? I guess if you look at it from the perspective of can they they force you to do it - not unless something really bad happens and APS has to step in (and even then if she is "competent" she still gets to decide, unless she is Baker Act'd or something serious like that).
So sure - it's a suggestion. But it's not one I would ignore for very long - because it usually has a strong sense of urgency behind it.
So, I highly recommend, that you get a needs assessment from your local council on aging and decide from there.
Some doctors are complete and total idiots and don't use the sense a sugar ant has, it is up to us to advocate or get an advocate to ensure we are getting the appropriate care for the actual needs.
24 hour care can be one of several different things: Three shifts of carers sitting by the bedside at home, 24 hours a day? A nursing home? AL with a bit of extra monitoring? A babycam, and a pressure alarm if the person wakes up and tries to get out of bed? They are all forms of 24 hour care.
For that matter, doctors differ in their suggestions, their understanding of the total situation at home, and their realism about finances. Saying ‘24 hour care’ is easier than doing it. It reminds me of another recent post where the doctor said that MIL ‘would not thrive’ in a NH – without considering whether the carer, husband or children would ‘thrive’ with MIL at home and the carer quitting her job, or even whether ANY elder ‘thrives' in a NH.
If you have doubts about the need for 24 hour care, I’d suggest that you look at all the options. Then go back to the doctor for a more detailed recommendation – or find another doctor who can give more useful advice.
On the other hand, the doctor did let dad go home from an assisted living facility, after a stroke, knowing that he lived alone, not ordering home health care for him, and not letting us know that he was even going home! We had to scramble to get someone there to look after him! Who told us?? The neighbor who picked him up from the facility and took him home, gave us a call. Geez.
I'd think NO. . . otherwise, why would she say that?
You must ask your MD to clarify anything and everything s/he says that you are not absolutely clear about / understand.
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They do sell a specific insurance product for this very scenario, it's called LTC insurance.
For healthcare the only POA I trust is 5 WISHES which is legally accepted in 42 states and has been translated into 22 languages. There is also a pediatric form.
Why I like it? The 1st wish allows you to select 3 individuals and 2 alternates to form a team to aid with your health care issues with you or if you are unable to make the decision. The next wishes relate to how you wish to be treated during your health decision road. The final wish allows you to determine how you wish to have your memorial.
The language is very comforting and very legal. There are attorneys who pu-pu the notion of a team making the decisions but it is legal.
Aging with Dignity or google 5 Wishes. It is $5.00 for 1 but is definitely worth the investment for your loved one and yourself and family.
Either because they are not mobile, or in danger of falling when trying to walk.
Also, they need someone to manage medication, toileting or incontinence care.
My husband suffered a stroke which left him unable to walk or even sit up on his own, unable to speak clearly, unable to chew and swallow solid food, no use of right arm or leg, and doesn't know how to use the tv remote, or telephone, so he can not call anyone for help.
He needs 24 hour care. I stay home with him all day, every day.
I do occasionally leave for an hour or so to run an errand, do quick shopping and such only because there are things I need to do and I don't always have someone available to stay with him. I make sure he is comfortable, in his bed, with tv on, a thickened drink on the table next to him before I go. I also have a camera focused on him so I can look in on him from my phone, and talk to him.
When a doctor says that 24/7 care is needed it means she is no longer SAFE alone.